Time to introduce our little girl

                                               Camille Hope



Isn't she cute!  We are in love with this little girl.  We finally have the stamp of approval from our adoption agency so I feel safe to introduce our newest little angel.  We are so happy and so relieved to get the go-ahead.  God is good and this time of wait and testing has been another great lesson of faith in Him.

Camille is currently 1yr. 1mnth. and we get monthly updates on her from New Day.  She recently had chicken pox so we can mark that off the immunization list and she calls her nannies "Auntie."  Not sure if that's in Chinese or English.  We are so thankful she is at New Day and is obviously loved and cared for there.  It makes the wait for her that much more bearable.

Currently we are finishing up some loose ends on our paper work and then in about 2-3 months our dossier should be complete.  We are still hoping that we can travel around November, hopefully sooner but hard to tell.  God has done some amazing things for us with this adoption so it is all in His time.  In the meantime we are sending off her first care package complete with a Ni  Hao Kai-Lan doll, cute summer outfits, bubbles and candy for all of the kids and nannies.  Hard to cram all of that into a shoe box.  She will be sharing a room with our oldest, Grace(10), so we need to get that all situated.  Time for another crib as our baby still is in his, possibly another high chair, definitely more cute girl clothes, and  we need to figure out a Chinese middle name.  I cannot believe how blessed we are!

Miss Khloe -- Please help bring this baby home

Please go to this site http://2china4khloe.blogspot.com/  and help bring this sweet girl home.  Her family is leaving very soon and still needs to raise in-China funds.  You can also go to the New Day Foster Home site http://www.newdayfosterhome.com/kids/kids_bj.htm and read more about Khloe.  How exciting for this family to get to meet their little angel in just a few weeks!

Paperchase

We are into the thick of paperwork around here.  We have our pre-approval to adopt Camille from the CCAA and it only took 1 day!  I am amazed at how quickly everything is going so far, not at all like a typical adoption.  God is moving mountains for this little girl.  I have faith she is in good hands until we come and get her.

Tomorrow is our homestudy.  Our house has been sufficiently cleaned but I'm hoping the social worker doesn't look in any closets ; )  A few items had to be quicky tossed into the back of a closet until later.  Gotta love crisis cleaning!

My prayers for our sweet baby are that she knows how much we love her, that the dear Lord prepares her for this big crazy family and that he prepares us for her.  I'm specifically praying for attachment and bonding and if there are any issues that He will guide our hearts and our eyes to the help we need to help our girl.  I'm specifically praying for dear little Issac, our baby of the family now.  He and Camille are 3mnths apart and it is not easy to be booted out of the baby role.  I pray that God helps ease that transition for him.  I also pray He eases the transition for our youngest girl, Helena.  She is 6 and for 6yrs she's had the role of the baby girl.  Hard for the kids but they always do so well when we welcome a new little one into the mix.

I thank you dear Father for your many blessings.

IT'S A ...........

GIRL!!!!   Yep, we got matched.  Already!!!  We got an email last Friday saying they had a possible match for us.  We didn't get the email until late Friday and had to wait an agonizing 2 days to find out her information.  On Monday they sent her info. and we were in love.  We prayed on this decsion and today we let the agency know we would love to be this little girl's parents.  I... can't....believe...it!!!

God is so good and gave us special confirmations along the way about this little one.  I prayed she would be in foster care but specifically prayed it would be New Day Foster Home and guess what, that's exactly where she is at.  Freaking out!  When we recieved this information I couldn't believe it.  Thank you dear Jesus!!!

What's next?  Well, we have to do it backwards from last time because we have so many children (awesome).  First we get matched...Check!   Then we ask CCAA if they think we would be a good enough family to raise this little girl.  If we are approved then we can start our dossier.  I'm guessing we will be able to get her in about 7-9 months.  I've been working on as many other little tid bits of paperwork already but the bulk, the dossier, will take about 4-5 mnths.

How wonderful it is we have her picture and can pray for our little girl by name (we have named her Camille Hope) and face!  God is so good!!

I'll post a pic after we are approved, I don't want to risk anything  by releasing information before we've been OK'd to do so.

Please keep our family and little Camille in your prayers.

WoooHoooo!!!!

Just.....just..... say it

I feel like I have my hand securely placed over my own mouth, with a few dabs of super glue.  I have been eagerly awaiting and painfully postponing this post for awhile.  I feel like I'm a jumble of emotions about this, just kinda happy/yucky!  Nuts, I know.

OK, here it is,  WE ARE ADOPTING AGAIN!  Alright it's out now.  Family knows, some close friends know.  We and God know most importantly.

Why am I so emotional about this?  Because this is a HUGE leap of faith on our part.  I've spoken a little about our issues with our adopted son Nathaniel but what I haven't clearly expressed is the extreme stress that his yet undiagnosed (but momma has a hunch) emotional state has brought upon him first and the rest of the family second.  We really thought we were done adopting....FOREVER.  But, God had other plans.

Last summer he quietly spoke to my heart about opening our family to another little one, I shared this with my husband who thought I was CRAZY!   I thought I was crazy too.  I asked him to pray with me about this and he did.  I also shared with him the ladybug in adoption thing, you know, the stories you hear in the adoption community about how God gives you a ladybug as a sign of hope during your wait.  Well Bob thought I was a little crazy about this too but guess what, he was bombarded with lady bugs.  I mean it was almost obnoxious in a wonderful, God could never be obnoxious but He almost was, sort of way.  Every time the guy walked out the door he saw a ladybug or he would walk in the house with one on him, all. summer. long.  Was this enough, nope, Bob needed more time to pray so pray we did.

Fast forward to this Fall.  I really had decided that we were not going to adopt.  I let it go.  I was so tired of being at odds with my husband over this subject and there was always a sense of stress plus add Nate's behavior to the mix and I thought "We really do have our hands full, thank you very much, not gonna happen!"   It was November 28th and we had just set up the Christmas tree, I went in and sat down on the couch in the other room while Bob cleaned up the pine needles-- ha, see how I get outta work around my house ; ).  While I was nursing I was over come with a sense of urgency about adopting.  I yelled at God - well, in my head,  and I told him to LEAVE ME ALONE!!!   I told him I had done the best I could to change my husband's heart again towards adoption INCLUDING fasting for him and I was done, DONE I TELL YOU.   I told God IT'S NOT ME YOU HAVE TO CONVINCE, IT'S THE  GUY IN THE OTHER ROOM SWEEPING UP PINE NEEDLES, LEAVE ME THE HECK ALONE!!!!  Then I hung up the phone on Him, yep I really did.

I finished nursing Isaac, stood up and walked into the kitchen and Bob walked in and said "you'll never believe what just happened, I just swept up a ladybug!"  He had the dustpan in his hand and there she was, walking around among the pine needles, all happy and gift from God like.  Well, I burst into tears and told him what had just happened.  He said "We need to really pray about this." and then I choked him because Helloooo, that's what I've been doing.  Needless to say I found another ladybug the next day and thanked God for that sign of hope for ME, the sinner that just yelled and hung up on Him.

We prayed and we prayed and we prayed. My daughter's Grace and Noelle prayed every single night quietly to themselves for 30 days straight and didn't breath a word of it to their daddy. On Valentine's day he finally said "lets start the paper work."  So we officially started our second adoption February 2010.  Miracles do happen, never underestimate the powerful prayers of a child!

Can I just say we are scared, scared I tell ya.  We love our son Nate so much and are working so hard to help him heal as well as heal ourselves but his adoption has really been traumatic at times for ALL of us.  So that's where the leap of faith comes into play.  We didn't have a fairytale, awesome, tell the whole world "GO ADOPT"  type of adoption.  Do we fiercly love Nathaniel: YES. Will we work our tushies off to help him heal and pray thousands of blessings over that boy?   ALWAYS.

We are fully prepared to have another child with the same emotional traumas as Nate has, we have simply said "Yes."  But, I am praying for God to have mercy on us and to again prepare us for what our new little one will bring.

We ALL are the Body of Christ.  We have felt His hands holding us through this journey through others in our life.  The prayers of family and friends, the hands on help we have recieved in those dark times.  We all make up His Body even in our brokeness because it's through our brokeness and weakness that our eyes SEARCH for HIM.

So, we are adopting we JOYFULLY and FAITHFULLY declare!!

Sled dog races

A couple of weeks ago we went to the sled dog races held on the mountain.  It's so fun to see the dogs and their handlers, some even kids!

  We got to see a sport call skijoring where a person on skiis is pulled by a dog or dogs.  Not only were adults skijoring but kids were too.  We recently added a golden retriever to the family and have great plans for him.  ;)

We even saw our dog's groomer.  "Hi Mariah, we didn't know you were a skijorner with your HUGE doberman!"

 The highlight every year is sledding down a hill next to the dogs and mushers.  The kids can sled and watch the races at the same time.  The kids and Daddy were tuckered out by the end of the afternoon. 

My sweet baby Isaac was even in on the action, well he had no choice in the matter really

I did my part and made sure all faceplants in the snow were tended to immediately. 

We ended our afternoon of snow, sledding and stinky wet dogs with a special trip to Starbucks where everyone had a kid's vanilla steamer or kid's hot chocolate.  I'd say it was quite a lovely day. : )

Gotcha Day - a new view

Yesterday was Nate's gotcha day. Two years ago in an orphanage in Tianjin, China my baby's life was changed forever. He was handed over by a crying nanny, to a crying mom(me), and proceeded to shut down for several hours. When he awoke from his shut down, "what the he*l is going on here," nap he pulled out his very well polished survival skill of charm. The poor little guy smiled and did tricks for us, had zero boundaries, and basically was in survival mode for well, 2 years.

My heart broke for him. I had read about all of this but feeling it first hand was way different than reading about it. I don't think traumatic even comes close to describing what happened on that day .

How does this fit in with "Gotcha Day" for my post theme? I guess I just feel like something is not quite right about celebrating such a traumatic event. I know the "correct" thing to do in the adoption world is to celebrate that day, but we are rethinking it.

I was adopted, my 3 siblings were all adopted, and we never once celebrated the day we joined our family. Did I feel like my parents didn't love me or respect the fact that I was adopted, "No." Did I feel like we were not being mindful enough of the sacrifice my birth mother made , "No." Did we celebrate the heck out of our BIRTHDAYS, "Yes." Did we constantly pray for our birth parents especially the sacrifice our birth mothers had made, especially on the day of our birth, "Yes."

I guess I think about it like this. If my parents had been able to have biological children, which they never did, and every year we celebrated the day I joined the family it would be a reminder that I was different. I would know they loved me and that they were happy to have me as part of their family. I probably even would enjoy the gotcha day celebration but that single act would be a way to separate me from the bio siblings.

Every single day we work very hard to help heal Nate's little heart. We try very hard to pull him in to the family as one of us. We absolutley acknowledge he was adopted and acknowledge the huge sacrifice his birth mom made. Do we need to celebrate being abandoned? Being abandoned is a horrible terrible thing. What mixed messages are we giving him "You were abandoned, it's terrible but we are so glad you were!" What the heck!

Some might say it all depends on the spin you put on gotcha day. If you are positive and happy, celebrating the awesome event that it was, then that is how it will be viewed. Or if it is celebrated with a thankful state of mind for the sacrifice his birth mom made then that is the feeling it will have. I say it's all celebrating the differences and really a sad sad day, for him.

I do not want my son growing up feeling and being reminded he is different than his parents and siblings, it's already an obvious fact.

I do want my son to grow up knowing that we rejoice and delight in him as a part of our family just the same as the rest of his siblings.

This is a subject we are struggling with. We don't have an answer. For our family the answer may be to not celebrate gotcha day, for other families the answer may be to celebrate that day. Not judging, just thinking really hard about this one.

Until we figure it out though we will continue to observe that very awesome and tough day with a Chinese dinner, lots of hugs and kisses and many prayers of thanks to God for bringing little Nate into our family.